I’m Tara (a.k.a. The Divorce Encouragist) and I’ve been happily divorced since 2006. Leaving my husband was like waking up from a bad dream: I was a little shaken, but overall delighted to rediscover myself and my surroundings. Because of the divorce, I was able to grow in ways I didn’t think were possible. In hindsight, it’s hard to feel anything but gratitude for my ex husband, whose infidelity helped me to find my strength and walk away from a bad situation.
As of the end of 2011, I’m also recovering from the devastating breakup of a long-term relationship in which I cohabitated with divorced dad and served as a pseudo-stepmother to his children. This separation experience is far different from my divorce. As I ride the waves of grief and gratitude, I’m learning, growing, laughing, crying and sharing much of my experience here. It’s a process that is strengthening me and I’m all about the evolution.
- A marriage shouldn’t survive at the expense of its participants.
- Sometimes a good divorce is the appropriate solution to a bad marriage.
- Separation signifies the evolution, not dissolution, of a family.
- Divorce is the shared goal of two people wishing to part ways.
- Divorce shouldn’t be ugly or expensive.
- A good divorce can be accomplished by employing a healthy attitude and a realistic outlook.
I’m so passionate about healthy divorces and evolving families that I’ve spent the past five years absorbing all the pertinent information I could find. I consider myself an ongoing student of divorce and I became a divorce coach in 2010. In addition to learning and coaching, I’m also a dedicated writer and you can find some of my other work at Divorced Women Online and inside StepMom Magazine.
Thanks for visiting!