They were discussing the concept of “no sacred cows” and stating that respect is always necessary, even in relationships with family members. Iyanla was recounting a personal story involving a conflict with her grandson and she stated, as if she were speaking to him directly:
“I love you very, very much. I love you. And I have given you everything that I could. Please forgive me if I wasn’t who you needed… I’m still gonna love you. But I’m complete.”
Her sentiment struck me with a force I wasn’t prepared for. My vision blurred with tears as I felt the sting of old wounds, awakened by her words. How appropriate for separating couples, I thought.
Pain and anger so often drive us to declare war. And what purpose does that serve? Regardless of what side of the door you’re on, the truth is the same: Love, though present, is not enough. And we don’t need another person to make us whole.
The key to Peace is to find your Self and release the other person from your expectations. Accept what is. Breathe, love, forgive and move on. You are complete.
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