On March 23, Meredith and I participated in a teleclass with Laura Campbell, founder of the D-Spot community for divorced/divorcing women. If you didn’t get a chance to join us live, you can listen here. The recording is just under an hour long.
I thought our conversation went extremely well. Meredith and I discussed The She Said/She Said Project in addition to the personal struggles and triumphs we’ve endured as our lives have evolved post-divorce. We talked about our ideal visions, the obstacles we face, the effect of others and the importance of considering the unique circumstances surrounding each member of each family. It was a nice talk.
One thing that stuck with me was the idea of the mom and stepmom figures talking to each other “as women”. I think it’s important to make the distinction and realize that the person on the other side of “the man” is more than just his ex or his current partner- she’s her own person. Yet, so often this is impossible because we interact with Her only through the context of Him. We suggested the possibility of Mom and Dad’s Partner having a sit down chat without dad… and building a healthy respect for each other as a result. Isn’t that a happy thought? I imagine, by removing Dad from the equation, the women could more quickly find their common ground. I’d like to think that we’re all inherently decent people… on some level. The sooner we find that place, the better things will be for everyone.
I’m sure other tidbits from our conversation might spawn more posts in the future… like I said, it was a good discussion. I was honored to be Laura’s guest. She’s an inspiring leader for her community- don’t forget to check out The D-Spot 🙂