On the heels of my previous rant… This comment is another which angered me:
“The parent with a greater percentage of custody should be the one to make all decisions regarding the kids.”
(What?!?!) The number of overnight visits should neither negate nor justify the rights of either party to act in a parental capacity. The notion that the primary custodial parent can make decisions without regard for his/her co-parent’s wishes is …(immature, irresponsible, unethical?)… wrong.
This illustrates the necessity of a parenting plan. Without one (a detailed one), co-parents are free to make assumptions such as the one above. Doesn’t it make more sense to have the Rule Book agreed upon prior to the start of the game (or, at least as close to the beginning as possible)? It’s important to note from the start who picks the school and who picks the religion and what negotiation process will be used if Mom and Dad disagree about medical matters.
Co-parents are supposed to function as a team. Divorce doesn’t grant one partner a dictator status.