Some do. Some don’t. I might.
When I was married, I hated being married. I despised people who said they were happily married. I loathed marriage. “Flawed institution!” I’d say. I still say that… but with less enthusiasm.
It wasn’t until I got divorced that I realized the possibility of a solid, stable, happy, healthy marriage does, in fact, exist. Emphasis on the word “possibility”. There’s still a lot of roadblocks which frequently divert couples from the path to that goal.
I’ve heard people, in the wake of a divorce, proclaim “NEVER AGAIN!” Perhaps because their marriage was hell. Or their divorce was. Fear of commitment, maybe? Too devoted to the kids? Financial risk?
I’ve seen others picking out new rings as soon as the ink on the divorce decree is dry. Do they fear being alone? Or it could be the result of a biological/psychological drive to restore a traditional Family Unit? Financial gain? Social status?
We’ve all got our reasons.
Currently, I think it would be nice to have a civil union: a legally recognized domestic partnership which bears none of the stigma of “marriage” and still grants Boyfriend the right to visit me should I wind up in the ICU. Not to mention the fact that it would elevate the status of my relationship beyond the juvenile-sounding “Boyfriend/Girlfriend” Level.
At this point, I’m no longer anti-marriage. However, it remains an institution into which I have no desire to be admitted. For now, at least.