“Broken Home.” Does anyone know specifically where this phrase came from and why we use it to describe a divorce scenario? Perhaps I should’ve googled it myself before I started typing, but I didn’t want to lose my enthusiasm. Why does it not mean “house damaged by natural disaster”?
I don’t like the negative words we use when we talk about divorce and this might be one of the worst phrases. Especially considering the fact that it’s used most often when describing the family situation of children. What does it mean to a child to know he/she comes from a “broken home”?
And what does it mean to the rest of us? I suppose it means “Mom and Dad don’t live together”. Right? So then, if Mom and Dad live apart and the kids travel between them for visitation…. doesn’t that mean the children in fact have TWO homes? Two complete homes with beds and slippers and toys and pets and snacks and games?! Two sets of appropriate holiday decorations? Two sets of holiday gifts? Waffles in one home and pancakes in another?
Am I wrong? To me, 2 loving parents + 2 different households = 2 homes for the kids. Sure, one might lack status. One might be less clean. One might contain second-hand furniture… but, if the children are welcome and loved, it’s a home!
Why the negativity when the plain fact isn’t so scary? The “broken home” terminology does a great disservice to all members of a divorced family.