I’m somewhat fascinated by people who speak negatively of their ex’s partner– or even the idea of a new partner. If Mr./Ms. Smith has such bad taste in (wo)men, what does that say about Mr./Ms. Smith’s ex-wife/husband? (am I offending anyone?) The phenomenon seems to occur more frequently when children are involved- I suppose because one parent feels they are being protective. Is it protective? Or damaging?
The following is a mix of comments I’ve heard from people discussing their ex’s partner:
- “I took a survey. Everybody agrees with me that she’s bad news.”
- “She’ll never know my children”
- “I don’t want my kids to be exposed to someone like that.”
- “The more people that love these children, the better.”
- “I trust his judgment”
- “I’d like to meet her before the kids. If I don’t approve, I’ll sue him for full custody.”
- “We’ve become friends. We set a good example.”
- “I’m keeping my mouth shut. If I say anything bad about her, my kids will fault me, like her even more close their minds about the subject.”
- “He seems nice enough.”
- “It’s none of my business”
I’d like to get some feedback on this issue. How do you feel about your ex’s partner? Or the idea of a new partner? How does your ex feel about your partner? What effect do you think this aspect of family relationships has on children?